That guy, I think he was onto something...some make the effort to be the best, to be perfect, or to be humble...(and for clarification, not being humble doesn't equate to a detour to arrogance)...What if you targeting to be more of you, was easier than being the best or humbling yourself to prove a point? Who are you trying to appeal to? What are you judging yourself for?
if you can recognize that you don't need this definition as some homing beacon so that people recognize you as part of their tribe, you may find yourself in the expanse of infinite being.
If you can allow the idea that each of these states and attempts takes you away from you being you, what would you choose?